I fell in love with the Eagles in a kitchen in Galway city. My girlfriend was a huge fan and had all their early vinyls and a record player beside the fridge. We spent some happy times together, listening to the Atlantic rain lashing against the windows, enjoying the music and dreaming of California and that peaceful, easy feeling. I have their albums on my iPod now, my enjoyment immune to the passing of the decades. “Peaceful Easy Feeling”, comes to mind when I’m just connected and all is well with the world and I’m full of love.
One of my favourite lines, “And I know you won’t let me down, ‘Cause I’m already standing on the ground“, always brings me back to deMello. “Wake up, wake up” he tells us in ‘Awareness’ and then tries a little harder to galvanize us into action, to encourage us along the path, “Can you imagine how liberating it is that you’ll never be disillusioned again, never be disappointed again?”, he asks. If you’re like me, then the answer is usually negative, some things i just find too hard to imagine. Some things just seem impossible to achieve. And yet deMello is so definite, so persuasive, i find myself wishing he is right and determining to follow his advice to test his propositions for myself.
deMello encourages us onways; onways and upways “ You’ll never feel let down again. Never feel rejected. Want to wake up? You want happiness? You want freedom? Here it is: Drop your false Ideas. See through people. If you see through yourself, you will see through everyone. Then you will love them”. This is as powerful a message as we are likely to receive and deMello does not mince his words – he tells it as he sees it.
So lets get real my friends, lets drop our expectations of everyone, including of ourselves. I see a small light, like a chink in a wooden fence or the effect of lifting the corner of the curtain in the morning after the sun has risen. I can, just for a second or two, before the vision fades away, know what it would be like if i could only drop my expectations of everyone and everything, myself included. I get this overwhelming feeling of liberation and happiness and then it is gone again as my mind kicks in telling me not to be ridiculous, not to be so easily fooled. We are all so afraid of being fooled in this world of public scams, proven conspiracy theories and easy politicians. Sometimes we find it hard to trust anyone, to believe in anything. That’s the current legacy of increased access to information; now we know, more than ever, just how much we are been scammed, how much we are been fooled.
But, of course, that is an essential part of deMello’s message, don’t expect people to behave other than as humans, weak, greedy humans. That doesn’t mean that you don’t work against them and their scams. It doesn’t mean that you walk, like a gullible fool, into every con that comes your way, but it does mean that you are not disappointed in people because you know that that’s how many people behave. Always looking for an angle, for some advantage to themselves. Accept it, be aware of it, don’t fall into the trap but don’t be disillusioned by other people’s behavior and keep that spotlight shining on yourself and your own behavior. Some of the wisest words ever recorded to be spoken are those of Jesus in Matthew 7.5, “Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” I love that, it sums us all up and clarifies one of our greatest challenges – change ourselves, never mind trying to change the universe, change ourselves first.
Are you ready? OK. We accept that we are all just humans and we love everyone, weakness and all.
Just grasp that peaceful, easy feeling.